October 2: International Day of Non-Violence

On the occasion of International Day of Non-Violence, I want to share some nice thoughts based on Gandhiji's experiments for betterment of the world:

• Whenever I despair, I remember that the way of truth and love has always won. There may be tyrants and murderers, and for a time, they may seem invincible, but in the end, they always fail. Think of it: always.
• An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.
• They may torture my body, break my bones, even kill me, then they will have my dead body. NOT MY OBEDIENCE!
• There is no people on Earth who would not prefer their own bad government to the good government of an alien power.
• I am a Muslim and a Hindu and a Christian and a Jew and so are all of you.
• Edward R. Murrow: [at Gandhi's funeral] The object of this massive tribute died as he had always lived - a private man without wealth, without property, without official title or office. Mahatma Gandhi was not a commander of great armies nor ruler of vast lands. He could boast no scientific achievements or artistic gift. Yet men, governments and dignitaries from all over the world have joined hands today to pay homage to this little brown man in the loincloth who led his country to freedom. Pope Pius, the Archbishop of Canterbury, President Truman, Chiang Kai-shek, The Foreign Minister of Russia, the President of France... are among the millions here and abroad who have lamented his passing. In the words of General George C. Marshall, the American Secretary of State, "Mahatma Gandhi had become the spokesman for the conscience of mankind, a man who made humility and simple truth more powerful than empires." And Albert Einstein added, "Generations to come will scarce believe that such a one as this ever in flesh and blood walked upon this earth."

Career Surge....and..My Birth Day

Last two months have been exceptionally good as far as my technical career is concerned.

I became witness of 2 champagne corks on the floor...

I am staying at client side. I enjoyed my birth day as well in between (25 Aug).

Mumbai life is pretty different from Noida. People are busier here. Crowd, double decker buses, auto/taxis, bada paav, bada masala, paav bhaji, pav missad..etc...are icons of common mumbai life....I am hopeful to travel in Mumbai local trains some day.

I am also hopeful to enjoy a drive to the maiden 5.7 bridge over the Arabian Sea connecting two parts (Bandra and Worli) of Mumbai.

I heard a lot of chaos about racism and ill feeling among people. But I really didn't see any incident. I talked several people including taxi drivers regarding the same. They reported no such issue in general.

I missed delhi type aloo ka parathas here. I am thankful of my client for giving me 2 days off to visit Delhi for the same in between bearing all the expenses. Indeed! can you believe it ? I spend 8000 bucks for aloo ka parathas.

I became little expensive. But sometimes It's good to be like that.....

......hmmm... i worked a lot..and yet to go a long ahead....

Cheers!!!

Sudhir

Loneliness And Being Alone Are Two Different Things

Usually we are so busy in work that we forget to seek the treatments for the most common problems of ours. We work with different people at times. We meet and depart. Some persons become prime part of life. The changing requirements of work and changed social structures usually make us feeling loneliness and sometimes we like to be alone.

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I was feeling loneliness and it was pretty horrible in the morning. Loneliness is a sort of disorder. One can feel loneliness among crowd of people and that's serious problem. Sometimes we want to be alone for ourselves.

But you can always transform yourself from the state of loneliness (pessimism/negatism) to alone (Optimism/positiveness).

It's not easy for sure. There could be certain side effects for the same. For example, You might feel difficult at mixing up with people. Again that could be a separate problem.

Ok, what's about the spiritual facts of self realization or Karma yoga theory?

Just love everybody everything every moment. Know yourself..it's the most important.....

Yeah.... I feel great now....:-)

Loving 2 All,
Sudhir

Friends... Happiness....World

If you make someone unhappy, you also feel unhappy... nothing is more important than friendship....but since nothing is more important ..it means everything can be done for friendship which is good..and usally great things happen when we are together. If someone insists... insistence does happen in friendship.... pls mind it... !! if someone gives up one's insistence today..may be it would become dangerous tomorrow.....
Expectations do happen in friendship and relationship. how to deal with them is an art. some people are pretty poor and throw away soon and some reacts and find their way either..but some are really the best who don't make it harder to other person to meet and even other person fails they never mind. but this best category is really rare. and in fact such people are really sort of saints.
Ok, what if your friend is insisting you to meet. I guess, if everything is ok and he/she is really caring about you, he/she would come. and if your friend is not coming even after certain instances of invitations, then you should try to know the reason. And if you didn't find the reason then it becomes tough because:

1. You are so emotionally attached with that person and you feel that he/she is ignoring.
2. You contemplate in yourself what's the possible reason why he/she is hiding anything if it's there.
3. You develop a doubt in your mind if you were ever important for him/her.
4. And since it's a new change in your habitual routines. You don't find your friend with you in various matters and it makes you unstable.
5. etc...

Resolution:

1. Do NOT involve too much in any one.
2. Never end any relationship. Never go from your friend's life. Even never think of that.
3. Never make it harder for anyone to meet.
4. If he/she is going, don't let him/her go. Try to sort out in the best possible way.
5. If he/she goes and your all efforts are failed. let them go and just have faith in God. stay calm and creative. Just think that your life's objective is not to find friends but to discover yourself. and if you find him/her back ever in your life, try to accept as before.
6. Just read Bhagwatgeeta... You are not body, you are a soul and this life is meant for some purpose. All relationships would meet an end. You ll again take birth and find random people again.
7. Free flow life: just think how beautiful this world is from OUTSIDE...dont indulge in this...this world may be a hell... and heaven and hell is how you perceive.
   
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Displacement of the Truth

Dear Reader,

Usually contemplations and my strange observations make me resonant and instable.
I don't know if anyone of us lives life without rises and falls, without being a witness of earthquakes or storms or wars.

My life starts from a small farmer's house where I brought up among peasants and laborers. My father was observed honest and very ordinary man. For him his truth and love to all was utmost asset. He was taking care of a jumbo family of ours and making a bridge among other families of uncles and cousins. He was a member of the social committee in that locality/village. People usually do consultation for any important matters.

We had several spiritual and cultural programs at regular intervals. Festivals were celebrated commonly in a very healthy manner. People used to join without any feelings of caste or creed. Though they were divided into castes. But everybody was having understanding of their positions. Only one serious illness was inequality and suppressiveness against scheduled castes. But I found my Papa, a brahmin, very kind with everybody. He used to work hard alongwith peasants. I used to support him.

Years passed.... I joined college...got education... struggled for career and still fighting to keep up business running. working with officials and also in touch with those peasants.

What I am writing about is the displacement of the truth. When I am nostalgic about the changes. Ok what is the displacement of Truth? I'll tell you later.
I am writing couple of real stories/ my observations here:

Puneet (Bhole) My Friend:
Puneet and I born togther in a small village. We brought up together, got primary education together. We used to go to walk to the canal and sugarcane farms together in the evening, used to sit calm looking into the sun and finding the interesting images in the clouds... and discussing various things including science, fiction, movies...singing songs and bhajans. I wasn't looking very good... I was little introvert and so I was having very less friends. Puneet and I was known as best friends in the village. It was the greatest truth that we were together and a great hope for the village for upcoming future.
We keep in touch always.... still after he's no more physically in this world. Ya..... Now truth has changed for me... I accept it happens... But it's not acceptable. ..

My innocent childhood friend turned a notorious thief:
In my primary school, there was a classmate of mine. He had a tamarind tree at his door and used to bring tamarind fruits (Imali) for me. His smile was so lovely, He used to sit in the back row. He was usually very serious and quiet. It continued for couple of years and we departed. I joined a higher secondary school in a nearby town. He continued in the village only. In the burden of new education we forgot each other. Tens of years passed, After getting job I visited my village and papa sent me to his village for some work. and I became nostalgic about early life. I asked someone "Bhaiya, hiyan ek bado so imali ko ped hatho agar hum sahi hain to" He said with a surprise "Sudhir, moye pehchanat hau". I asked him again with a double surprise "Tum mero nau kaise jaant hau". He said "bu imali ko ped hamao e hatho. kai saal hue gaye ped gir gayo. yaad hai hum log ek saath padat hathe"...
He was so changed. He had joined a local thieves' gang after being unsuccessful in education and being blamed falsely by his neighbours... The whole story....his innocent smile... his selflessness friendship... and now strange look and bad image... what a displacement... no tamarind tree..the truth: his address now changed. He himself was an address; known as a notorious thief. I felt sorry very first time in my life in a peculiar way. I felt why I didn't talk to papa to help him out while departing. Why nobody has supported him to shield against blames......

When I was not given seat in a vehicle because I was belonging to a particular caste:

I was doing graduation those days. My friend Dharam didn't come college for couple of weeks. I enquired and came to know that he is having some mental disease. I decided to meet him. It was the time when telephones were very limited; neither of us was having one. It was general election time. I had no good idea how to reach his place. I just started, I took a bus towards his village and I felt good and just emotional about my friend. I was told to change bus at next town as that was a part of local transportation route/carrier policy. I was hopeful to reach there on time and having a plan to return and teach my students in the evening. But the time was waiting for another tough journey by me.. After moving till certain miles, almost midway, we came to know that bus is having mechanical failures. Anyways there was another hope: If we can walk till that town and get the bus. I didn't think too much and started walking fast and reached in half an hour to that town. But again the same thing, due to general elections and considerations of violence-sensitive region, local bus operators were told by the administration to stop transportation. From this point I had to travel 21 kilometers more. There was another alternative If I can get a local train upto his nearby station and to get train, nearest railway station was 5 kilometers. So..? obviously started walking to the railway station and i reached around in 50 minutes... but again no train before 1.5 hours. and it was only 9 kilometers to travel by train.. so i decided to walk again... and I reached there in 1.5 hours.. but now from that point I had to travel 7 kilometers more... and I was totally worn out. and there was no bus because of the same reason. I was desperate and dried mouth and hungry too.

I was praying to Almighty for some vehicle ..and He listened ..I saw a election-compaign cab coming towards me.. I asked for a ride upto that village... there was 5-6 men inside the cab having a capacity of 10... some guy told me to get in. I was very happy and really thanking Him and those people. But ...next moment some guy asked me where I had to go. I replied.. then next question..if you are belonging to a particular caste?.. I said nothing..since I was going to the village of people belonging to that caste they assumed that I am also of the same caste .. and they just stopped the cab and insulted me to get out....and the most painful was the fact that i was insulted by people of my caste only... :-( anyways i was recharged greatly and just walk faster and reached to see my friend... he was now more important for me.. I felt the pain that my friend and his people might be living a suppressed life... i reached there.. i hugged him... he was better and looking forward to join studies.. i took good food there... those people gave me lots of love and respect... i requested my friend to let me go back after a good rest of around 2 hours... Fortunately there was a train scheduled as per my plan in the evening as they people told me .. My friend arranged me a drop by a bike to the railway station....since he was not feeling well he arranged some guy to drop me. He came with me till the main road...and in the way some other folks joined us... Dharam introduced me as his best friend. they were very haapy to meet and me too... One of those guys asked me if i came by riding on the election compaign cab or how i managed to reach.... I just told him the story and my worries at castism... but that guy started abusing the caste I belong to without knowing the facts.... My friend just smiled looking into my eyes... and I answered him through my eyes only. Dharam just stopped him and said Sudhir is also a brahmin.....

He hugged me tightly this time. and we departed with the understanding that he would join me by next week.... throughout the journey I was thinking the bad face of castism. and again nostalgic about the early days where papa introduced his co-workers to me with proper relations of 'Chacha'(uncle), 'Tau'(big uncle) etc... not like ABC pandit or thakur or kachhi.... I thought it's again a displacement of time...bad one!! and They didn't even consider my faded face after walking too much and my thanks... and that guy who was really insane in feelings of revenge...... Alas!

Polls: It's win over weak and scattered opposition... anyways it's good for sensex... but who will stop 26/11, Raj Thakrey, and bad reservation system

Polls '09: It's win over weak and scattered opposition... anyways it's good for sensex... but who will stop 26/11, Raj Thakrey, and bad reservation system?

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UPA has performed well in general elections 2009. People are saying that India is now mature democracy. But my question is "If this governement can address the most prominent issues of India?" Though BJP has been failed in finalizing their strategies whether to go for Hindutva hardlining or Soft-Nationalistic face but again surely Congress is still into the same politics started by Nehru...politics of psedo-gratification to minorities and scheduled castes.

They are failed to stop terror attacks. they are failed to stop racial/regional riots. How can people forget that in the Congress ruling state Maharashtra, northern indian people were killed. It's the Congress who makes policy to divide India through gratification and bad reservation system.
Again this election was not as transparent and honest as compare to last assembly election in UP under the huge security forces. In UP, the most ignored Brahmin/Thakur voters have no hope from any sort of elections. Be it Samajwadi Party or BSP in power, they all are either Castism-Hulla bol or Ambedkar statuemaker at common public places (Someday I am sure, they all statues would be removed by some rivals in queue).
BJP has been decisionless and helpless to reply to the politics of castism. They tried very hard to convince everybody but castism-poison is so deep in the roots of our democracy now that it would take years to clean.

The remarkable thing- Mr A B Vajpayee is being highly missed in this election.
Incomparable human being.....

Anyways, I congratulate Mr. Manmohan Singh for the consecutive tenure. I wish Mr. Rahul Gandhi can understand the expectations of the nation..as sooner or later he would be the only key person. I wish Congress would revise their policy of gratifications.

and stop the policies of Killing Brahmins after Mahatma Gandhi's assassination and killing Sikhs after Indira's assassination. better if they can revise their policy of faulty reservation system. They must be strong enough to handle 26/11.

For BJP, I wish if Arun Jaitley, Jaswant Singh, Yashwant Sinha, Sushma Swaraj (Why she doesn't fight from Delhi?), Rajnath Singh, Modi should go for an honest analysis. This defeat asks them to do home work first. They went in the public without any preparations... Pleeeese, voter is now educated. hmmm... Rajnath should go for the self-studies like Govindacharya did.
better if Modi goes and sit in the feet of the political Guru Vajpayee and learn humbleness and condemn himself and allow an unbiased enquiry to his accounts and tenures.

For Advani(came into the focus after his rathyatra for Ayoudhya Janmabhumi Mukti Andolan), I can show my pities only for following reasons:

1. He compares himself with Sardar Patel. Comparison is the bad thing in 2 individuals.
2. He praises Zinna in Pakistan.
3. He calls to himself a strong leader. Let others decide!!!

Mr. Advani, Its a defeat of party..just remember the song you might have heard in Sangh meetings (Hum azadi ke rakhwale..Pada yasha kee humko chah nahi..)

Anyways for the strong nation and its stability, opposition must be strong. BJP is ,no doubt, a nationalistic party. Their ideology is matching with the soul of the nation and its sovereignity.

BJP have 1000's of intellectual resources. They have fair scope to go on top.
They must show their commitment again in terms of Kashmir and independent economic policies. RSS must take minorities in their camps by winning their hearts but remember this heart winning process must not follow the Nehru-politics of gratification; better if they keep quiet in winning heart process.

And for all Indians, I just wish to say that this is only my openion. I might be wrong at places and I will be introspecting for the same, however, it's my humble wish to post your feedbacks here in fair and healthy words.

Best Regards

सरोवर की महत्ता उसमें विकसित सुंदर पुष्पों या कलरव करते हुए मनमोहक पक्षियों से नहीं, बल्कि उसके दिन रात खुले रहने में होती है |

Significance of a pound is not in its beautiful flowers and chittering birds but in its openness and availability to all..... day and night....

This is a thought given by Samarth Sadguru Shri Shri Sukhraj Giriji Maharaj.
Shri Siddha Dham Shri Kinnar Kaddi Ashram, Tapovan, Gaggarpur Bewar (Mainpuri)